Save Your Heartbreak

I am pregnant by choice - not by law.

I am pregnant on purpose - not by force.

I have been pregnant with non-viable pregnancies - and my uterus is healthy (and my children are here) because I was granted legal access to safe D+Cs.

I am not heartbroken.
I am not silently seething.

I am fucking furious

I don’t feel “sad” for my daughters because Roe V Wade was overturned. I feel sickened for my children because this isn’t an American issue or a “woman’s issue” - this is a human issue. Roe V Wade is a social issue, a medical emergency and an economic nightmare.

During the pandemic, Mother’s in North America have served as society’s social safety net - yet we are pushed out of the workforce by the pay gap; by the lack of affordable childcare and by the the societal expectation that women SHOULD stay home and care for the children (with insufficient maternity pay and most workplaces insinuating - if not openly admitting - that pregnancy is a hurdle for career development).

Those who have eggs - those who can bear children - have been under attack for much longer than today. Today’s just the most obvious (recent) assault.

In fertility - I see these micro aggressions EVERY DAY. Semen analysis’s not always being done as part of an initial work-up; “normal” seminal parameters decreasing (while female infertility is under the microscope); male lifestyle choices not being called out; painful gynaecological medical procedures being done without sufficient pain relief or explanation; the BCP (“THE pill”) being used to pacify most gynaecological complaints; barriers to fertility care - be that lack of funding or actual care - not being addressed.

We are under attack. We have always been under attack. So we need to stand up and speak out.

Save your heartbreak for another day.

~Anne Matthews Energy Tree